13th November 1997
Chapter 1 - The You That You Want To Change
Day 54 - Love (Continued)
An example inspires and brings confidence in the application of
knowledge, and the visible sign of it is an undying smile. The self knows neither sorrow nor death, yet in it flow all the relative events. It is easy to be detached when you are not in love.
Being in utter love and yet undisturbed, caring yet not worried, persistent yet not
perturbed, are all the obvious signs of the self shining through. Let love be. Do not give it a name. When you give love a name it becomes a relationship, and relationships restrict love.
There is love between you and me. Just let it be. If you give love a name, such as brother, sister, mother, father, Guru - you are making it into a relationship. Relationship restricts love. What is your relationship to yourself?
Are you your wife, brother, husband, Guru? Let love be. Do not give it a name. When love glows, it is bliss. When it flows, it is compassion. When it blows, it is anger. When it ferments, it is jealousy. When it is all 'no's', it is hatred. When it acts, it is perfection. When love knows, it is me. With whom do you feel really comfortable and at ease?
You feel comfortable with someone who does not question your love, someone who takes for granted that you love them. If someone doubts your love and you constantly have to prove it. This becomes a heavy load on your head. They start questioning you and demanding explanations for all your actions. Explaining
everything you do is a burden.
Your nature is to shed the burden, so because you do not feel comfortable. When you question the reason behind an action, you are asking for justice for yourself and you create a distance. Your whole intention is to come close, but by asking for justice you create a distance.
When someone asks for an explanation, they are speaking from doership and are imposing that doership on you. This brings discomfort. If someone is just there with you, a part of you, they do not question you. They are like your arm. There is a closeness and unity that goes beyond all demands and questions.
Neither demand an explanation nor give an explanation. You are the eternal witness. You are as mucha witness to your own actions as you are to someone else’s actions.
