What is your relationship with yourself? Who are you to yourself?

If you know how to row a boat, you can row any boat. But if you don’t know how to row, changing boats isn’t going to help.

        

Similarly, changing a relationship does not solve the issue. Sooner or later, you will be in the same situation in any other relationship.

        Most people look elsewhere for a perfect relationship, but few look within themselves; at the place from where we relate.

         What is your relationship with yourself? Who are you to yourself?

People think, ‘Oh, I’m single. I’m so bored being by myself. I need a companion. I need a relationship.’ If you are so bored by your own company, think how much more boring you must be for someone else. And two people bored with themselves getting together, will completely bore each other!

         If your relationship is based on personal need it may not last that long. Once the need is fulfilled, on a physical or on an emotional level, the mind will look for something else and go somewhere else. If your relationship is from a level of sharing, then it can last longer.

        When you’re looking for security, love, and comfort from your partner, you become weak. When you are weak, all the negative emotions come up and you become demanding. Demand destroys love. If we just know this one thing, we can save our love from getting rotten.

It’s the limited awareness of yourself and the limited experience of love that encapsulates you in a tiny compartment where you start suffocating. We can’t even handle the love we are asking for because we have never probed into the depth of our own mind; our own consciousness.

 

- Gurudev Sri Sri..